Visit The “Jesus Never Fails” Kitchen

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Two weeks ago, I was about to prepare lunch for my family, when I took out a fresh fish from the freezer. Suddenly my one year five months old daughter who stood by watching, started crying and demanding that I give her the fish to eat. I kept trying to tell her in my own way that the fish was raw, I needed to spice it up, cook and then take out the bones so it can be ready for consumption, but my toddler wouldn’t hear but chose to cry louder and even fell to the ground and no one was able to comfort her. I decided to ignore her, went ahead to do what was right and when it was ready, she had her fish and didn’t even remember all the drama she had put up.

The Holy Spirit ministered to me that this is how many of us cry for a blessing that is not yet ready. God is saying I’m spicing it up, cooking it and taking out the bones so you don’t get choked. If only my little daughter knew, she would have waited patiently instead of being anxious. (Phil.4:6) God is saying to someone here that you should be anxious for nothing, Be still and know that I am God I am spicing up that blessing so you will enjoy to the fullest. 

Instead of begging God for a manageable husband, wait on the Lord (Isaiah 40:31), be patient while He prepares a Heaven sent man for you. Why are getting worried because you are currently unemployed, be patient because God is arranging that dream job on your behalf. Life is simpler, easier and stress-less if you leave everything to Him. Remember 1 Peter 5:7 “Cast all your worries on Him because he cares for you”.

Relax in the sitting room and let God prepare your sumptuous meal.

 

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Culled and edited from a Facebook post (author unknown)

When Last Did You Review Your “Next of Kin” Form?

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Thirty-year old Ikechukwu Oke was a brilliant young engineer at Sweetline Engineering. He was married to Charity and they had two lovely children, three-year old Cynthia and her brother Christopher who just celebrated his first birthday. On a trip to Ibadan to attend his best friends wedding Ikechukwu was involved in a head on collision with a bus that ran out of control. He was killed instantly.

Since she and Ikechukwu were married, 28-year old Charity had not worked and was totally dependent on her husband’s income for all the family’s needs. Ikechukwu died intestate; that is, without a will. When he joined Sweetline six years ago, he had completed the required documentation and since he was a bachelor, had designated his father as his Next of Kin. When she visited her late husband’s employer to inquire about his final entitlements, Charity was shocked to learn that his designated beneficiary was his 72-year old father who had 2 wives and 8 young children that stood to benefit from all his entitlements. Since he got married to Charity four years ago, Ikechukwu had forgotten to update his form.

Sadly, Charity had not developed a warm, cordial relationship with her in-laws, and received no support from them. Years of hardship and drastic change ensued; Christopher had to be withdrawn from his private school to be enrolled in a more affordable public school. They also had to move from their rented apartment in Lekki, as rent was due the month after Ikechukwu died, to a friends’ chalet whilst Charity began to review her options.

This story is all too common. Many people begin their work life as spinsters or bachelors at a time when it would have seemed natural to put down the name of a family member such as a parent or sibling as their “Next of Kin.” As the years go by, many forget whom they designated, until it is too late. When people fail to amend these important records, it is their designated next of kin that will be officially recognized should the need arise. Where there is no will, many institutions will rely upon these records to carry out the wishes of the deceased. In some cases, the Next of Kin has since passed on which makes the issue all the more complicated.

In Western cultures, the choice of the spouse as next of kin is the most obvious one; the mother of his children is generally the person in whom a man places the most trust. In Nigeria, it is more common for a man to choose his brother as next of kin. In the event of the husband’s death making the wife your next of kin will save her and the children much hardship given the traditional extended family system where some family members might forcefully claim their brothers property. There are numerous examples of widows having to cope with not only the loss of their spouse but also of all their personal possessions and property.

Who is your next of kin? At some time or the other, you have probably had to fill out a form or some other documentation where you had to clearly state your next of kin. Many people don’t take this designation that seriously, yet this is an important issue particularly where the documentation you are completing relates to money matters such as banking and insurance transactions and investments in stocks, real estate, or a business. The filling of this simple form to reflect current realities can have far-reaching consequences that will either protect or cause enormous hardship to the ones you love.

Once you are married it is also important to revisit your will if you have one, to include your spouse as a beneficiary. If you have not yet written a will, it is a good time to consider this as you now have new responsibilities. Many people assume that if they pass on, their spouse will automatically become beneficiary to their estate. If you were to die intestate, that is, without leaving a will, your property will not simply pass to your spouse as you might think; strict rules rank your next of kin, and your property will be distributed according to laws of intestacy, which may vary from state to state.

It is only by having a valid will or other estate planning mechanism in place that you can protect your immediate family, including your spouse and children, and ensure that your investments and property do not go into the wrong hands following your demise.

 

Credit: Nimi Akinkugbe via: http://www.moneymatterswithnimi.com

5 Things Men Think About Ladies And Makeup

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“In 1770, a British law was proposed to Parliament granting grounds for annulment if a bride used cosmetics prior to her wedding day. —Marjorie Dorfman, “The HISTORY of Make-up”. Fast forward to 2015 and findings from a report published on the UK’s second biggest-selling daily newspaper “Daily Mail” states that ” a fifth of girls in the UK as young as 12 are afraid to leave home without wearing a full face of make-up and over half of under-14s wear cosmetics every day”. I conducted a mini research on BBM where I asked about fifty ladies (over 18) to either send me a makeup less picture of themselves or put a makeup less picture of themselves on their DP. The responses I got included “Okay, I will”, “I don’t take pictures without makeup done”, “I don’t think I have pictures without makeup but let me search”, “I prefer looking sophisticated”, “I am confident to send it to you but not confident enough for the world to see me without makeup so please do not share”. I attended a wedding the other day and I could have sworn that I didn’t know the young lady getting married with all the floors, layers, foundations and roofings of makeup she had on (as a matter of fact, any woman that chooses to marry me will have to choose between having light makeup done on our wedding day or marrying herself – no joke).

Do I have something against makeup and cosmetics in general? Not really. There is no question that women look better with their hair and makeup done than without it. Anyone that tells you that you look better without makeup done is either lying, drunk or you aren’t doing your makeup correctly. Makeup is designed to make you look better; saying that it doesn’t is like saying that a fresh coat of paint on a house doesn’t make the house look better: it is only true when someone screws up the paint job by using the wrong colors or applying the right ones incorrectly.

So what’s my (and most men’s) problem with makeup:

1. Making use of the fresh coat of painting illustration mentioned above, let use compare two types of buildings to buttress my first point; the first building is newly painted but the interior decors are an eye sore while the second building hasn’t been painted in ages but the interior decor was lavishly conceptualized and implemented. My first issue with makeup is the fact that women spend so much time improving their looks and barely no time improving on themselves. An average Nigerian lady works/schools from Monday to Friday having just the weekend to herself. She then spends almost the full Saturday making her hair for the upcoming week and Sunday service the next day. On Sunday, she spends another an hour plus putting things in order for church, gets back maybe cooks, eats, sleeps, watches TV, visits friends and goes to work/school the next day as the cycle continues. If only women spent more time improving themselves mentally than they do physically, they won’t depend on men as much.

“Beauty, to me, is about being comfortable in YOUR own skin….”
Gwyneth Paltrow

2. It is a misconception that men prefer their women without makeup, real men simply love a woman who is confident in her own skin. Confidence is a character trait that both sexes find incredibly attractive in the other (even if women value it more) because confidence is rooted in a healthy self-perception and acknowledgement of one’s own self-worth – which all diligent and contentious people have. The attractiveness of your confidence is much more important than whatever advantage you sacrifice by occasionally being seen without makeup.  A man loves a woman that doesn’t have to be fully made-up to feel confident of herself.  A woman that can step out on a Saturday with her man to exercise without a single makeup on and still feel and look confident. A woman that sees makeup as a convenience and not a necessity.

“Earlier, watching her apply mascara with ritual concentration, he’d wondered just how beautiful a woman had to be before she believed it.”
Alison Fell, The Element -inth in Greek

3. Real men dislike women whose life is dictated by her appearance. The negative effect of being unwilling to do activities that would require you to not wear makeup (swimming, exercising etc) by far outweighs the advantage you gain by always being seen at your best.

“Consider the fact that maybe…just maybe…beauty and worth aren’t FOUND in a makeup bottle, or a salon-fresh hairstyle, or a fabulous outfit. Maybe our sparkle comes from somewhere deeper inside, somewhere so pure and authentic and REAL, it doesn’t need gloss or polish or glitter to shine.” Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

4. There is something intimate about seeing a girl without makeup. When I see my girlfriend without their hair and makeup done, I’ve had two thoughts: (a) she is less attractive, but (b) it is nice that I get to see this side of her. It is an expression of intimacy – and her confidence – that she can be herself in my presence, and this is worth something. This is no excuse for always looking unkempt when with your spouse, but as Nigerian men would say “if a woman is willing to let you see her without makeup, she is willing to let you into her heart”.

“Beauty is about perception, not about make-up. I think the beginning of all beauty is knowing and liking oneself. You can’t put on make-up, or dress yourself, or do you hair with any sort of fun or joy if you’re doing it from a position of CORRECTION.”― Kevyn Aucoin

5. A final point is worth noting: a genuinely feminine woman loves looking her best. She takes great pleasure in adorning herself and amplifying her internal beauty via her external beauty. You don’t need to be a supermodel to enjoy this; you simply need to know that you are looking your current best. The more you allow yourself to enjoy looking beautiful, the less you will resent the “need” to do so, and the more comfortable you will feel when you don’t.

“The truth doesn’t tolerate makeup”
Oliver Mally

Reference: “What Men Think of You Without Makeup” on http://www.therulesrevisited.com

Women And Their Biggest Problem: Other Women

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The Feminism train has been on the move bulldozing any form of male dominance. Women who feel men are their biggest problem often champion this movement and leave no one in doubt of their men-are-the-problem-women-have message. No doubt, men have played their unenviable role in the marginalization of women in the society but in truth, men are not the problem that women have, women are.
The problem with the focus of feminism is the fact that men have been solely blamed as the problem women have ignoring a theory: women are their own biggest enemies.

1. Some women are plain daft: The story of a friend comes to mind. She’s single and recently met a man she who according to her betrayed her trust. In her own words “I met this guy, we went to the movies and had lunch together. While we were speaking, I noticed a ring on his finger but he denied being married and I believed him. We even kissed only for me to get a call from his wife who confirmed he was married and all”. She ended her confession/counseling session with the question “why are men wicked?”. Men fool women because women are gullible. A girl sees the main evidence of marriage (his wedding ring) and she still chooses to believe his lies? Now whose at fault for her misfortune? Feminists would say the man for deceiving the lady. I would say, the lady for being stupid enough to be deceived.

2. Women are selfish: It is not news that married men are fond of violating their marriage vows by philandering with much younger girls. A feminist’s view of this despicable act would be to blame the men for not keeping their trousers zipped. I agree to a certain degree but let’s look at it from the fisherman’s angle.
A fisherman sets a fishing line laced with a hook and some fish food. He comes back the next day and meets a hooked fish. Are you aware that over 50 fishes saw that fishing line but somehow realized it was too good to be true and left it untouched but one foolish fish came, saw, somehow knew it was a trap but still fell for it. Men are the fisherman, the hook is his appearance and charisma while the fish food is either money, security, care or marriage while the fish is ladies. Most ladies realize that the man is married and stay clear but the foolish ones either in search of financial support or sexual satisfaction fall prey with their eyes open and they blame the men? A woman is fully aware that a man is married to another woman but still fools around with him. A classic case of women doing women.

3. Women bring eachother down: Women have a knack for pulling eachother down. A woman makes enough money to get herself a car and other women naturally assume one Alhaji or a sugar daddy got it for her. A woman diligently works herself to the top of her company and other women will enviously insinuate that she’s sleeping with the Managing Director. Let’s take for example, female celebrities on Twitter or Instagram get more hate from other females while all the men think about is sleeping with them..lol. When a man sees a successful man, he gets motivated to replicate or even surpass that success level but when a woman sees another successful woman, most will become envious and attribute her success to external forces. Women grow up already.

4. Women envy eachother: Females are the most envious and spiteful humans on the planet. A man has an argument with another man which might even involve some fist throwing and name calling. In less than 24 hours, those two men would be seen drinking together laughing away their differences. But women, fist throwing is even too much, ordinary argument and these women can keep malice with eachother for years. This level of bitterness to eachother even transcends to strangers of the female folk. A lady passes by a group of men and all the men do is notice the good things about the lady like her beauty, her dressing, her body etc but let that same lady walk by a group of ladies and all you will hear are things like “see her very bad makeup”, “her eyebrows arent even in tandum”, “her boobs are even flat”, “her dress is aweful”, “she can’t even walk well on those ugly heels”.
Ladies, why the hate?

5. Women constantly put other women and even men under pressure: It is no secret that women dress up to oppress other women than they do to impress men. The truth is that most men (asides hair stylists) know the difference between Brazilian, Peruvian, Indonesian or even Indian hairs but most women do. A woman dresses up with money she can’t afford and then puts other women under pressure to keep up. These insecure girls then put their fathers under pressure to supply the money for their enhanced upkeep, their fathers can’t meet up and then they transfer the pressure to their boyfriends who can’t obviously keep up so these boys steal/commit fraud to meet up with their girlfriends’ demands. When their boyfriends can’t meet up, married men/sugar daddies/aristos are the next point of call.

Women are not even united in their feministic battle for equality, while some are fighting for equality, others are fighting with each other for superiority.
Dear women, remember that a united herd of gazelles will defeat a divided pride of lions. Be wise.

Ladies Only: Dear Future Husband

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Dear future husband,
Here’s a few things
You’ll need to know if you wanna be
My one and only all my life

Take me on a DATE
I deserve it, babe
And don’t forget the flowers every anniversary
‘Cause if you’ll treat me right
I’ll be the perfect wife
Buying GROCERIES
Buy-buying what you need

You got that 9 to 5
But, baby, so do I
So don’t be thinking I’ll be home and baking apple pies
I never learned to cook
But I can write a hook
Sing along with me
Sing-sing along with me (hey)

You gotta know how to treat me like a lady
Even when I’m acting crazy
Tell me everything’s alright

Dear future husband,
Here’s a few things you’ll need to know if you wanna be
My one and only all my life
Dear future husband,
If you wanna get that SPECIAL lovin’
Tell me I’m beautiful each and every night

After every fight
Just apologize
And maybe then I’ll let you try and rock my body right
Even if I was wrong
You know I’m never wrong
Why disagree?
Why, why disagree?

You gotta know how to treat me like a lady
Even when I’m acting crazy
Tell me everything’s alright

Dear future husband,
Here’s a few things
You’ll need to know if you wanna be
My one and only all my life (hey, baby)
Dear future husband,
Make time for me
Don’t leave me lonely
And know we’ll never see YOUR family more than mine

I’ll be sleeping on the left side of the bed (hey)
OPEN doors for me and you might get some kisses
Don’t have a dirty mind
Just be a classy guy
Buy me a ring
Buy-buy me a ring, (babe)

You gotta know how to treat me like a lady
Even when I’m acting crazy
Tell me everything’s alright

Dear future husband,
Here’s a few things
You’ll need to know if you wanna be
My one and only all my life
Dear future husband,
If you wanna get that special loving
Tell me I’m beautiful each and every night

Future husband, better love me right

Above are the lyrics from a song by Meghan Trainor titled “Dear Husband”. Heard the song, loved the lyrics and decided to share it with the ladies. A lesson to single ladies: you literally control your man, if you hand over the mumu button to him then you are at fault. First and foremost, a man should never feel marrying you is doing you a favor, make sure he has the impression that he is privileged to marry you. Secondly, make sure you negotiate your marriage terms before marriage. Terms like, I am not gonna be a house wife, I will not depend on you for money etc. Thirdly, sex is a woman’s most powerful tool, it’s your bargaining chip. If your husband offends you, don’t deny him sex but make the sex as boring as possible. He gets back on track, give him a special reward (I am sure you know what I mean). Fourthly, never ever get too comfortable with your appearance. You are a babe remember, not his mother. Dress like a babe. Make your hair, look like a chick even at home and please no wrappers, we are not in the village era anymore..lol. Lastly, men are not mind readers, don’t assume he will get the point with the crumbs of clues you place everywhere. If you want something, let him know. Be open with your husband and he will appreciate your openness.

EXTRA: Listen to “Dear Future Husband” by Meghan Trainor by clicking HERE

Sex: A Woman’s Bargaining Chip

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Question: I will like to engage your thoughts on another very important topic of our time which is prostitution. How can humanity put an end to prostitution for the sake of a cleaner and better world? Keep up the good work – Mary

Answer: The world can never put an end to prostitution because for starters, we cannot even define prostitution. Who is a prostitute? The dictionary definition of a prostitute is a person you pay to have sex with, right? Now if paying for sex is what makes it prostitution, then what we are saying is that all women and some men are prostitutes because they all get paid for the pleasure of their company. Is that what we are saying? I hope not. If the payment aspect of a physical relationship is what worries law makers, well I have news for you. Sex has never been free and will never be free. Nothing valuable in this world is free.
So how can sex be free? One way or another, men have always paid for the sex they get from their wives, girlfriends, mistresses and hookers, whether they are paying cash or paying for the rent, clothes, school fees, travel, children’s upkeep, gifts etc. Payment is payment.
Female companionship of any form will cost you, period. So why should the woman standing on the street give it up for free when wives and girlfriends get maintained by their men? Society makes laws telling women not to accept payment for sex otherwise they will be prostituting. Yet the same society applauds the institution of marriage even though the sex we get from the wife is the most expensive sex of them all. Society lacks clarity in this area. Men have always paid for sex. Everybody knows that. This is why Germany legalized prostitution. They just got tired of fooling themselves.
Men and women are born with basic and distinct survival attributes. For men, it is their strength and aggression. For women, it is their sexuality. That is how the gender roles got established. As the bread winner, the man controls the money while the woman controls the sex. This shared control has ensured a balance of power between the sexes. So society cannot now tell women to have sex for free. When a woman loses that sexual power, they lose everything because men already dominate the world. A woman’s sexuality is her primal and ultimate security. No legislation anywhere should take that away from them. This will only perpetuate male dominance over women. And by the way, if it were at all possible to put an end to prostitution, it will not lead to a cleaner and better world as you say. It will only multiply rape and sexual crimes by a million percent because man has got to have sex, one way or another.

 

Culled From COMMON SEXUAL PROBLEMS AND THEIR NOVELTY BASED SOLUTIONS by Uche Edochie, MD, Zee Virtual Media on Vanguard Newspapers (Tuesday, April 7th, 2015, page 37)