Ladies: Nude Pictures and Sex Tapes

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Its funny how a video of a couple having sex comes out and the girl gets the most of the trash talk. She’s a hoe, she’s loose, she’s this, she’s that. I’m like “Helloooooo, what about the dude in the video?”

A girl’s nude picture would travel faster and wider than that of a guy because a girl’s sexuality sells market (in an Igbo trader’s voice). Take a look at the commercials on TV, billboards, adverts on the internet, put a lady showing some flesh and even ladies would pay more attention.

The other day, the story of a beauty queen who got dethroned because her nude pictures got leaked by a tabloid in. her country got my attention. According to the source, she apparently shared the nude pictures on her Whatsapp group (like seriously?) before she became famous and then when fame came calling, she was caught pants down.

With this shameful debacle in mind, a friend pinged and asked me the same question I get asked all the time. In her own words “Is good for a girl to send nude pix to her bf?”.

The answer I gave to her was very short and straight to the point, but before I get to that, let me share the view on a few friends on the same topic when asked “is it okay for a girl to send nude pictures of herself to her intimate lover/boyfriend?”

Ere P:
Its not cool. What if he keeps it in his phone and does not delete. It might just go online if someone else gets to it. What if she cheats on him or wants to quit the relationship, he could use the pictures to blackmail her.
It’s not morally right. If she can be so confident in sending him a nude picture, how sure is she that he isn’t confident enough to do what he pleases with the picture?

Slimee:
I never used to see anything wrong with it but I think I do now. The rate at which guys leak female nudes is alarming. It all depends on d guy’s mindset though but it’s better not to send.

Joy:
No because you never can tell who might come across it. What if they breakup and he decides to expose her. Even if he doesn’t want to expose her intentionally, what if someone asks to see pictures on his phone, sees her nudes and transfers them to their phone.
What happens afterwards?

Chinda:
Nope, never okay. If the pictures gets out either intentionally or by mistake, would the love be strong enough to dame the consequences? Another bone of contention is the bad breakup angle, what if he decides out of jealousy/anger/envy to show the World her nude body?
Why not have a Skype call with him and show him whatever you must or you could send without ur face showing.
In my honest opinion, don’t even do it.

Rukky:
Answer to the question is No because you can never trust anyone over pictures in this internet age. There are so many cases of guys sharing their girls nude pictures on social networks. So I’d advise strongly against it. But if you think your boyfriend is responsible and has an image to uphold and you trust him a lot then it’s up to you.

 

Their replies reminded me of the lady who asked a popular blogger if it was okay to record herself having sex with her boyfriend. Both strike the same cord with is “nudity” which could turn into “public display of nudity” if the video/pictures gets out on the public domain.

The sad part is that ladies get hurt the most when such private acts are leaked unless you are a certain Kardashian whose sex tape helped spring her into celebrity status.

My advice to the lady was simple. I asked her just one question,
“If after you breakup with ur bf, he decides to send your nude pix to your friends and you find them on the internet, how would you feel?”
She replied “I would feel down, very bad, if not depressed”
And then I followed “That’s the risk you face each time you send him your nude picture. Its not worth it. If he wants to see you naked, he shuld see it live not through a picture”. That solved the issue as the dude (not even her bf) asking for her nudes was angry because she refused to send making her feel guilty.

In conclusion, most nude pictures/sex tapes come out unintentionally, ask Gabrielle Union and other celebrities caught in the cloud hack scandal. If you really want to send him a nude picture, don’t include your face, or at least it gives you some room to deny it was you if push comes to shove. Talking about sex tapes, don’t allow him record you both having sex under the guise that he will delete it later.
Be smart. Don’t do stupid things for love.
Be guided.

1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. slimee
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 18:53:09

    Nice write up. Thanks for d reference sir. Keep up the good work. #educative #inspirational #motivational writer of our own time. Kurtis the King.

    Reply

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