People Pleasing: The Key To Failure

 

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Jesus went about doing wonders and healing people of their infirmities. What a mighty God we serve.
What the Bible pointed out rather stylishly was the fact that not only was Jesus going about doing wonders and healing people, He was also displeasing people along the way.
In Matthew 8:28-34, Jesus healed two demon possessed men and drove the demons into people’s pigs and in verse 34, “Then the whole town went out to meet Jesus. And when they saw Him, they pleaded with Him to leave their region”.
Also in Luke 19:45, Jesus entered the temple and began to drive out those selling. I’m sure those driven out where very angry with Him.
In verse 47 of the same chapter, “..the chief priests, teachers of the law and the leaders among the people were trying to kill Him”.
Mr. Judas, one of his disciples agreed to betray Jesus for a mere thirty pieces of silver (Matthew 26:14-16).
Even Bros Peter denied Jesus (Matthew 26:69-75).
And finally Jesus was crucified in the middle of two thieves. Almighty Jesus that healed the sick, raised the dead and fed the hungry.
He was hated, despised, plotted against and finally killed.

Let me shock you more…..

Are you aware that Satan, the man we also know as the devil was an angel in Heaven? He went by the name Lucifer which means ‘day star’ or ‘son of the morning’. Lucifer was established by God to be the angel of worship. Then he thought to himself “If God can get all this worship, so can I”. So he coveted the Throne of God and rebelled. This resulted in a mighty war in Heaven, Lucifer, along with one third of the angels was defeated by the Archangel Michael and cast down from Heaven to the earth where he became known as “Satan”, a name which literally means; “Adversary” as well as “Devil”, which means, “Accuser of the brethren.”

God, the creator of Heaven and Earth. The One that created man with dust. The Omini-present God. The One that never sleeps or slumbers. The God of all gods. Even God could not please one third of His own Angels.
To put this into perspective, if there were 3 million angels in Heaven, 1 million disagreed with God and left with the devil. Imagine!!!!!

If Jesus could not please everybody and even Almighty God could not please everybody, then why do you try to compromise yourself to please everybody?

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As a matter of fact, if everyone is happy with you, you would have made a lot of compromises in your life and that means you have no principles.

A principled man or woman won’t stand for anything or stand with anyone who violates his/her principles.

You are a girl that has friends who associate themselves with married men and this is against your principles. Unfriend them ASAP. They might despise you afterwards but as Jesus and God showed, you can’t please everyone.

You are a guy who has friends that smoke marijuana and gulp all sorts of assorted alcoholic drinks. This goes against your principles. Unfriend them ASAP. They might despise you afterwards but as Jesus and God showed, you can’t please everyone.

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“You can’t please everyone. When you’re too focused on living up to other people’s standards, you aren’t spending enough time raising your own. Some people may whisper, complain and judge. But for the most part, it’s all in your head. People care less about your actions than you think. Why? They have their own problems!” ― Kris Carr

“You cannot live to please everyone else. You have to edify, educate and fulfill your own dreams and destiny, and hope that whatever your art is that you’re putting out there, if it’s received, great, I respect you for receiving it. If it’s not received, great, I respect you for not.” ― Octavia Spencer

“You can’t please everyone, and you can’t make everyone like you.” ― Katie Couric

“I have made the choices that work best for me. I know I cannot please everyone, and that’s fine.” ― Marlee Matlin Best

“All I can do is follow my instincts, because I’ll never please everyone.” ― Emma Watson

“Every child is taught if you try to please everyone, you end up upsetting everyone.” ― Richard Engel

“I feel the need to please everyone is unnecessary and impossible.” ― Steve Nash

“You can’t please everyone, nor should you seek to, because then you won’t please anyone, least of all yourself.” ― Dylan Moran

“You’re never going to please everyone, and if you do, there’s something wrong.” ― Constance Wu

“To be truly positive in the eyes of some, you have to risk appearing negative in the eyes of others.” ― Criss Jami, Killosophy

“While being you and truly sharing what you do will bring happiness to others, you won’t find contentment merely trying to keep others happy.” ― Rasheed Ogunlaru

“Always tying to please others is definitely an assured path to stress and failures in life.” ― Edmond Mbiaka

“Don’t go into the business of pleasing people. You can’t please everybody. Simply do your best at what you do” ― Bangambiki Habyarimana

“The increased desire to please God and seek HIS approval will decrease the desire to seek approval from man.” ― Yvonne Pierre

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How to Stop Your People-Pleasing:
1. Stop. Literally stop right now. Practice being assertive. Practice speaking up for yourself and learn to say no. Think about the times you have said yes, when you really wanted to say no.
2. Take your time. If someone asks for a favor, take time to think about it or check your schedule.
3. Understand that your self-worth does not depend on approval from others. Your self-worth is your own perception of yourself and that depends on you. You don’t need external approval to be a worthy person.
4. Realize that you’ll never please everyone. If you please some people, you’ll naturally disappoint others.
5. Know that you can’t control what others think. It’s unrealistic to believe you can change someone’s thoughts. You can’t make someone happy unless they want to be. The only person you can control is yourself.
6. Realize that people won’t notice, or care as much as you think. Why waste your energy?
7. Have healthy boundaries. Make sure you have healthy boundaries in your life and stick to them.
8. Look after your own needs. It’s important to make choices that are good for you rather than what’s expected, or to please others. Do the things you enjoy and practice self-care.
9. Learn to love yourself. Love yourself unconditionally, as you are right now. Treat yourself as you would a best friend and respect yourself.
10. Address your insecurities. It’s important to address the underlying issues and to work on your self-esteem. Don’t be afraid to seek mental health help if you need it.

 

“We cannot please all men but we can be a blessing to many.” ― Mac Canoza

 

References: 

  1. http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/buildingselfesteem/2015/04/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/
  2. http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/pleasing-others
  3. http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/please_everyone.html
  4. http://www.flameministries.org/angels.htm
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