When Parents Dress Kids Like Adults


A few months before, I had taken my kids to a birthday party and found myself in what could easily have been a night club for kids. Scanty clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dress code.

Not long after, the kids were called out to dance to the hit songs of the season – these songs in my opinion should be rated PG 16.

4 – 6 year olds trooped to the dance floor, miming the sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies in the most sensual manner.  They could have given Beyonce a run for her money. They ran their hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard while their parents cheered them on. The boys had their upper shirts unbuttoned and rapped along perfectly to gangsta raps while doing flawless break dance.


Those who danced like actual children where shooed off the dance floor while the lewd ones were cheered on. As I watched, my child stared out of this circle looking longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was time to leave.

So the question is, why are we sexualizing our kids? Why does your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have to look like a chick? Why does she have to be hot or sexy? Should your 8 year old son go around with a comb in his hair and his pants sagged almost to his ankles?


If your child wears bum shorts out of the house at age 3, why should she be expected to wear longer ones at 15? If she wears 2 rings and 12 bangles at 6, why won’t she pierce a second ear hole at 17 and her bellybutton at 19? Why won’t your son pierce his own ear at 15?

Are you setting your children up to be immodest and indecent? What trend are you starting them on? That all these are fashionable or trendy doesn’t mean it’s ok. What happened to children wearing dresses. Children can look very nice and decent, they can be well covered and still look good.


I saw a child singing “I go chook you chuku chuku” with her friends and I was like “OMG”.

As a parent, you can’t play the CD of such songs and not expect your children to pick them up; the same goes for watching Mtv Base, Channel O, etc with your children. Studies have shown that children exposed to a high level of sexually explicit information tend to become sexually active early. Is that your goal as a parent?


Being a parent involves sacrifice. You will need to avoid listening to such music where your children are. Most of those lyrics demean women and teach your daughter that she’s just a intimacy gadget and her body is for squeezing. It teaches the boys that money is everything and women are things to be used to satisfy their primal urges. These music introduces them to a degrading pop culture.

Our children have their lives ahead of them, train them up in the right way when s/he is old, s/he would not depart from it. I didn’t make that up. It’s in the Bible. Proverbs 22:6. Let’s set them on the right path by teaching them to dress decently and sing nice or age-appropriate songs. Let your children be children. Our children have their lives ahead of them, let’s set them on the right path.

God bless us all.


WRITTEN by By Smith Aderoju Folashade Abiola and edited by Kurtis Smith

Does God Want Us To Be Rich?


One of the perplexing issues facing Christians today is whether God wants us to be rich or poor. I am not in that school of confusion because even as a little boy, I realized that money made everything better and easy. I needed money from my dad to buy books, biscuits and every other thing. My dad would annoyingly ask “this boy do you think money grows on trees?” whenever I asked for money to get new football whenever the barb wire around our house burst our ball.

I wanted to be able to make my own money and buy as many soccer balls and Shortbread (my favorite biscuit as a kid even till now..lol) as I wanted. The sooner the better.


Money is good!!!!!

Then as a teenager I heard people say that money is the root of all evil while quoting 1 Timothy 6:10.

Is having money evil?


A better understanding of that same scripture showed me that it’s the love of money, the obsession with money, the worship of money that is the root of all evil not money itself.

Thank God!!!!!!



Does God want us be rich though?
The Bible gives us an emphatic YES in 3 John 2 “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”

So God wants me to be rich!!!! Wow!!!!!

So how do we make this money? Going deeper into the Word of God, I discovered the secret to making money in Deuteronomy 8:18 “But thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is He that giveth thee power to get wealth..”


So God wants us to be rich and He can make us rich but why does He want us to be rich?

1. He is a rich God. Psalms 24:1 makes us understand that the Earth is the Lord’s and everything in it including crude oil (petrol, gas, kerosene), diamonds, gold, money (Dollars, Pounds, Naira and your local currency), cars (yes, cars….). Everything belongs to God and He gives generously to those who ask (James 1:5).

2. He wants to bless you because you are created in His image and since you are His child and He is a rich God, His riches belongs to you (Genesis 1:26, Psalms 35:27, Psalms 84:11 and Psalms 115:14).

3. He wants you blessed financially so you can finance the gospel because God will never give you something unless He expects you to use it (Deutronomy 8:18 and 2 Corinthians 8:9).

4. He wants you to honour Him through your financial success (Proverbs 3:9-10).

5. He wants you to be a consistent tither and give to fund His ministry on Earth through your local church and ministry outreaches (Malachi 3:10).

6. He wants you to care for the poor, widows, orphans and the helpless (Proverbs 19:17, James 1:27 and Exodus 22:22-24)

7. He wants you to be the head and not the tail. In the words of Bishop David Oyedepo “When I found out in Psalms 22:7 that the rich rule over the poor and the borrower is a slave to the lender, I vowed never to be poor or borrow”.

God wants you to be rich and prosperous. A giver not a taker. A lender not a borrower. The head and not the tail but seek first the kingdom of God (preach the gospel, tell people about Jesus, help the poor, make someone smile) and His righteousness, and all these things (money inclusive) shall be added to you.


This article alone has made me richer. Now go and get rich.

God bless you…..

God wants to bild

1. 7 Reasons God Wants You To Prosper by Harold Herring. Click HERE to read.

2. Does God Want You to Be Rich…or Poor? by
Hugh Whelchel. Click HERE to read.

The Most Powerful Name EVER


Power of attorney is defined as the authority to act for another person in specified matters. We have actually as born again Christians been given the power of attorney to use the name of Jesus. We act in His name. When we affirm anything or make a decree in the Name of Jesus, it’s as though Jesus Himself decreed it. We speak for Him, or speak in His place, when we use the Name of Jesus.


We don’t beg with the Name of Jesus!!!!


I can’t​ imagine going to a Government Parastal in the name of the President of Nigeria, President Muhammadu Buhari and be begging to be given a listening ear. Like, Buhari sends me to get a document or two from Ministry of Education and he has called in advance to make them aware of my arrival and I get there and still have to beg them to listen to me? Impossible!!!!!

The Bible has made us understand in Psalm 24:1 that “The earth is the LORD’S, and the fullness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein” and in Phillipians 2:9-10 we are assured that “God also hath highly exalted Jesus, and given Him a name which is above every name. That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things on earth, and things under the earth”.


You have the most powerful Name in all the universe at your disposal to use at will, don’t use it to beg, don’t use it to worry, don’t use it to cry, don’t use it to pity yourself.

Instead use the name of Jesus to put the devil and his demons, sin, sickness, death, joblessness, limitation, depression and even death in their place- defeated! And then use the same Name to establish yourself in the triumphant life, in all round success, health, prosperity, and joy. Use it to make your life glorious!!!!!!

Culled and adapted from Rhapsody of Realities by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome.