When Parents Dress Kids Like Adults

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A few months before, I had taken my kids to a birthday party and found myself in what could easily have been a night club for kids. Scanty clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dress code.

Not long after, the kids were called out to dance to the hit songs of the season – these songs in my opinion should be rated PG 16.

4 – 6 year olds trooped to the dance floor, miming the sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies in the most sensual manner.  They could have given Beyonce a run for her money. They ran their hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard while their parents cheered them on. The boys had their upper shirts unbuttoned and rapped along perfectly to gangsta raps while doing flawless break dance.

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Those who danced like actual children where shooed off the dance floor while the lewd ones were cheered on. As I watched, my child stared out of this circle looking longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was time to leave.

So the question is, why are we sexualizing our kids? Why does your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have to look like a chick? Why does she have to be hot or sexy? Should your 8 year old son go around with a comb in his hair and his pants sagged almost to his ankles?

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If your child wears bum shorts out of the house at age 3, why should she be expected to wear longer ones at 15? If she wears 2 rings and 12 bangles at 6, why won’t she pierce a second ear hole at 17 and her bellybutton at 19? Why won’t your son pierce his own ear at 15?

Are you setting your children up to be immodest and indecent? What trend are you starting them on? That all these are fashionable or trendy doesn’t mean it’s ok. What happened to children wearing dresses. Children can look very nice and decent, they can be well covered and still look good.

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I saw a child singing “I go chook you chuku chuku” with her friends and I was like “OMG”.

As a parent, you can’t play the CD of such songs and not expect your children to pick them up; the same goes for watching Mtv Base, Channel O, etc with your children. Studies have shown that children exposed to a high level of sexually explicit information tend to become sexually active early. Is that your goal as a parent?

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Being a parent involves sacrifice. You will need to avoid listening to such music where your children are. Most of those lyrics demean women and teach your daughter that she’s just a intimacy gadget and her body is for squeezing. It teaches the boys that money is everything and women are things to be used to satisfy their primal urges. These music introduces them to a degrading pop culture.

Our children have their lives ahead of them, train them up in the right way when s/he is old, s/he would not depart from it. I didn’t make that up. It’s in the Bible. Proverbs 22:6. Let’s set them on the right path by teaching them to dress decently and sing nice or age-appropriate songs. Let your children be children. Our children have their lives ahead of them, let’s set them on the right path.

God bless us all.

 

WRITTEN by By Smith Aderoju Folashade Abiola and edited by Kurtis Smith

Does God Want Us To Be Rich?

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One of the perplexing issues facing Christians today is whether God wants us to be rich or poor. I am not in that school of confusion because even as a little boy, I realized that money made everything better and easy. I needed money from my dad to buy books, biscuits and every other thing. My dad would annoyingly ask “this boy do you think money grows on trees?” whenever I asked for money to get new football whenever the barb wire around our house burst our ball.

I wanted to be able to make my own money and buy as many soccer balls and Shortbread (my favorite biscuit as a kid even till now..lol) as I wanted. The sooner the better.

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Money is good!!!!!

Then as a teenager I heard people say that money is the root of all evil while quoting 1 Timothy 6:10.

Is having money evil?

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A better understanding of that same scripture showed me that it’s the love of money, the obsession with money, the worship of money that is the root of all evil not money itself.

Thank God!!!!!!

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MONEY IS GOOD!!!!!!

Does God want us be rich though?
The Bible gives us an emphatic YES in 3 John 2 “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”

So God wants me to be rich!!!! Wow!!!!!

So how do we make this money? Going deeper into the Word of God, I discovered the secret to making money in Deuteronomy 8:18 “But thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is He that giveth thee power to get wealth..”

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So God wants us to be rich and He can make us rich but why does He want us to be rich?

1. He is a rich God. Psalms 24:1 makes us understand that the Earth is the Lord’s and everything in it including crude oil (petrol, gas, kerosene), diamonds, gold, money (Dollars, Pounds, Naira and your local currency), cars (yes, cars….). Everything belongs to God and He gives generously to those who ask (James 1:5).

2. He wants to bless you because you are created in His image and since you are His child and He is a rich God, His riches belongs to you (Genesis 1:26, Psalms 35:27, Psalms 84:11 and Psalms 115:14).

3. He wants you blessed financially so you can finance the gospel because God will never give you something unless He expects you to use it (Deutronomy 8:18 and 2 Corinthians 8:9).

4. He wants you to honour Him through your financial success (Proverbs 3:9-10).

5. He wants you to be a consistent tither and give to fund His ministry on Earth through your local church and ministry outreaches (Malachi 3:10).

6. He wants you to care for the poor, widows, orphans and the helpless (Proverbs 19:17, James 1:27 and Exodus 22:22-24)

7. He wants you to be the head and not the tail. In the words of Bishop David Oyedepo “When I found out in Psalms 22:7 that the rich rule over the poor and the borrower is a slave to the lender, I vowed never to be poor or borrow”.

God wants you to be rich and prosperous. A giver not a taker. A lender not a borrower. The head and not the tail but seek first the kingdom of God (preach the gospel, tell people about Jesus, help the poor, make someone smile) and His righteousness, and all these things (money inclusive) shall be added to you.

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This article alone has made me richer. Now go and get rich.

God bless you…..

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REFERENCES
1. 7 Reasons God Wants You To Prosper by Harold Herring. Click HERE to read.

2. Does God Want You to Be Rich…or Poor? by
Hugh Whelchel. Click HERE to read.

The Most Powerful Name EVER

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Power of attorney is defined as the authority to act for another person in specified matters. We have actually as born again Christians been given the power of attorney to use the name of Jesus. We act in His name. When we affirm anything or make a decree in the Name of Jesus, it’s as though Jesus Himself decreed it. We speak for Him, or speak in His place, when we use the Name of Jesus.

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We don’t beg with the Name of Jesus!!!!

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I can’t​ imagine going to a Government Parastal in the name of the President of Nigeria, President Muhammadu Buhari and be begging to be given a listening ear. Like, Buhari sends me to get a document or two from Ministry of Education and he has called in advance to make them aware of my arrival and I get there and still have to beg them to listen to me? Impossible!!!!!

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The Bible has made us understand in Psalm 24:1 that “The earth is the LORD’S, and the fullness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein” and in Phillipians 2:9-10 we are assured that “God also hath highly exalted Jesus, and given Him a name which is above every name. That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things on earth, and things under the earth”.

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You have the most powerful Name in all the universe at your disposal to use at will, don’t use it to beg, don’t use it to worry, don’t use it to cry, don’t use it to pity yourself.

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Instead use the name of Jesus to put the devil and his demons, sin, sickness, death, joblessness, limitation, depression and even death in their place- defeated! And then use the same Name to establish yourself in the triumphant life, in all round success, health, prosperity, and joy. Use it to make your life glorious!!!!!!

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Culled and adapted from Rhapsody of Realities by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome.

Drive Through With Your DRIVE

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I was minding my business when this beautiful and presentable lady approached my office table and asked if I was interested in buying body sprays and perfumes.

Before I could say Jack Robinson, she had occupied my table with different assorted body sprays and perfumes.

“This body spray is very good, lasts long and most of my customers love it”, she continued pointing to a body spray I was admiring.

Her use of English, presentation and interpersonal skills were top notch and I ended buying a body spray and a perfume from her.

She left her detials and asked me to call her when I exhausted the lot.

Curiosity they say killed the cat but I’m sure my next point of action won’t kill me. I used her number to search for her Facebook account (I’m sure some people didn’t know you could do that…lol. YES YOU CAN!!!)

What I discovered ‘wowed’ me.

This young and vibrant looking perfume seller recently passed out from Youth service.

Instead of sitting at home, lazying about and applying for jobs, she took the initiative and started something with what she had with the believe that one day she will have a story to tell.

What’s going to be your story?

The Bible said in Ecclesiastes 9: 10 “Whatever thy hand findeth to do, do it well…..”

Stop looking down on yourself. If you don’t like your situation, keep yourself busy till the situation changes. Don’t be lazy about it. Life is happening, ‘happen along’.

This young lady wouldn’t have been let into the office if she came with the sole aim of dropping​ her CV but was allowed in because she had something to sell.

See how her small mobile business opened the door for her into the office complex?

Let’s now imagine she had the resourcefulness and foresight as to go about her little business with her CV. As she sells a perfume to a client, she drops her CV with him/her with a smile saying “if you hear of any vacancy in your company or anywhere else, please give me a call”.

INITIATIVE!!!!!!!

Google defines the word initiative as “the power or opportunity to act or take charge before others do”. Oxford dictionary defines it as simply “a fresh approach to something”.

You have been applying for jobs and believing. That’s good. But in Eistein’s words ‘stupidity is doing the same thing and expecting different results’.

Do something different dammit.

Proverbs 22:29 says “Do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve kings rather than working for ordinary people”.

Emphasis on ‘Skilled in their work’. Even if you can’t go out and sell stuff. Learn a skill. Learn a trade. Improve yourself. Serve more passionately in church. Teach kids in the neighborhood a subject you are good at. Study a course online.

Sharpen your knife (mind) so when the wood (job) is available, you can cut it swiftly (successfully).

Humorously, the perfume and body spray I got from her are named “DRIVE”.

What’s your DRIVE? (pun intended)

Get up. Get out. Get working.

Flesh and The Female Dresscode To Church

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It was a beautiful Sunday morning and I woke up with this feeling of joy and expectation  and couldn’t wait to get to church to feel God’s presence first hand.

Got into church just in time as ushers were busy ushering ‘late comers’ to their seats and two girlfriends were ushered to two vacant seats directly in front of me.

I didn’t think much of them because they sat down like the big sisters of Jesus and didn’t act like they understood that praise involved standing up and dancing.

During the course of the service, we were all asked to stand up and that’s when all hell broke loose.

You remember the story of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife in the Bible? How the devil knowing that Joseph was destined for greatness pushed Potiphar’s wife into a sinful desire to sleep with Joseph? (Read full story in Genesis 39).

That’s how I felt when one of the girls stood up and her see through gown clearly showed the lines of her rope underwear aka g-string.

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OH MY GAWWWWD!!!!!

WHAT IS ALL THIS!!???????!!!!!

I looked to the ground and said within my breathe “Satan, nice try!!!”

Suffice to say that service was amazing but not without those uncomfortable and unholy quick stares I took at this ‘evil’ girl’s big g-string wearing buttocks. Sorry to add, I wasn’t the only one making quick glances at madam.

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But why?

Why would a lady wear such to the house of God? Why would some girls wear overly cleavage showing tops to church? Why would a girl wear a dress worthy of going to the club with into church? Why would a lady with a killer figure wear a gown so tight that every bump on her body is outlined through the dress? Why would a lady encourage sexual attraction from the opposite sex with her dressing?

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In another school of thought, is it okay for churches to disallow worshipers inappropriately dressed from entering the church?

But Jesus says in Matthew 11:28 “Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”. So what if these scantily dressed girls are showing their body because there is something lacking inside? What if they are burdened and in need of rest by coming to church? Do we turn them back just because they are not well dressed? What if the person decides not to accept Christ again over the fact that she was embarrassed because of her dressing?

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What do we have to say about the churches themselves? Most don’t​ even agree on a unified dress code. In some churches, women compulsorily cover their hair while in others, they don’t. In other churches, women are banned from wearing trousers while in others, they are not. In some other churches, jeans aren’t allowed while in others jeans are. In some denominations, tight body hugging pencil skirts are allowed while in others, it’s a taboo.

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The issue of dressing to church has been a century long debate in the body of Christ and the end is no where in sight.

In as much as the Bible says In John 7:24 “People judge the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart”. That doesn’t give ladies the audacity to dress shabbily into the house of God because God looks at the heart. What sort of heart do you have in dressing so temptingly to church?

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In everything we do, we need to give ourselves brain. Eccesiastes 10:10b says “….but wisdom is profitable to direct”.

The same wisdom that directs one to dress appropriately for an interview with a prospective employer. The same wisdom that directs one to take a swimsuit/bikini to the swimming pool. That same wisdom should direct you to dress appropriately to the house of God because the Bible said vividly in 1 Timothy 2:9 “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in decent apparel, with modesty”.

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This applies to both men and women alike, you should bring glory to God in the manner of your dressing. In church and outside church.

God might look at heart but if your dressing had eyes, would it confidently look at God?

Think about it.

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What IF banana FALL on you today?

 

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What IF I told you that banana would FALL on you now, what would you say? Lol.

The Nigerian music scene has been laden with so much sexual innuendo that one can’t help but flinch when eating fruits these days.

No fruit or plant has escaped musicians wrath with cassava, cucumber, banana, eggplant all caught in their sexually explicit lingua franca.

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These sexual undertones have endeared most to these artists and their songs but taking a deeper look into the male organ, what do women really have to say about its size and usage?

In an impromptu survey conducted on a group of 10 friends, ‘size matters’ came up tops for 5 participants, 4 went for ‘usage’ while the last one went for something I never heard in my life (we will discuss that much later).
In the view of the ‘size matters’ advocates, as long as the size of a man’s organ isn’t big enough for the width of a woman’s vagina, no matter how good he is, she won’t reach sexual climax.

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The 4 people championing the course for ‘usage’ however insist that size does in fact matter with one going as far as quoting the preacher, Myles Munroe who said “when the purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable”. In the words of two ‘usage’ advocates; “Size doesn’t matter. Some sizes could be big and still not function properly so what matters is how skilled the owner is at using it. Size only adds to the feeling”.

However, out of the 10 people questioned, whereas five chose ‘size’ and four opted for ‘usage’, one stood out completely. The purpose of this article is looking at her very interesting view on the subject matter.

In Halimat’s opinion, size doesn’t matter and usage doesn’t really matter, ‘aura’ matters.
In her words “It all depends on the mind and desire. The mind works in mysterious ways. It creates the picture and sends to the brain which in return produces hormones. For this reason a person can be sexually attracted to a woman who is endowed without her necessarily using that endowment in bed. It’s all about the mind of an individual not the size or usage of the joystick”.

 

It took me a while to understand her point of view but then it hit me.

A girl can fall for the body of a man who’s not good in bed and with a small organ because her mind has taken her satisfaction from the actual sex to the aura surrounding him. Only his hands over her, his kisses, his touch, his tongue, his words, his sweat, his energy makes her achieve climax. Her mind has rewired her brain from the ‘size’ and ‘usage’ mentality to the ‘aura’ mentality. Makes total sense.

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Just like a car owner who loves a particular car, dreams of the car, craves for the car only to get the car and find out that it consumes too much fuel or doesn’t drive as he had wished fast. His love for the car would require his brain to ignore the other elements not working to his taste.

Same way a girl can love a guy that cheats but still stay in the relationship because he takes good care of her and makes her happy.
The same way a man can stay with a lady girl in bed because her booty is made of silicon.

Same way a girl can become a single mother for Davido just because of the aura (fame, money, influence, power, personality) he carries around with him.
Think about it.

So when next you are asked the question, does size matter. Maybe your answer should be, ‘no, size doesn’t matter, aura does’.

On a different note, maybe we are just crazy and might never know what women really want…lol

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The Smile for the Camera Relationships

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Growing up, I realized quite early that God made my feet annoyingly big. My dad and brothers couldn’t pass down shoes to me because as early as 17, I had outgrown everyone’s shoe size.

During Youth Service, the NYSC officials couldn’t provide me with a shoe that could fit. I wear 46/47 and the most they had in my camp was size 45 so I was the only corper exempted from wearing boots. I wore slippers and my own shoes around the camp. It was that bad.

Have you ever seen a shoe you like but heartbroken that it doesn’t fit?

I go to the market to get shoes and come back depressed. The gorgeous shoes I see aren’t my size but with anger coupled with optimism, I buy one or two that fit a bit.
I wear them out to occasions and get the “beautiful shoe” compliments left, right and center which should be enough to offset the pain my feet is feeling. Right? WRONG!!!
When no one is looking, I find a place to get the damn shoes off, stretch my feet and let them breathe. It’s never worth it.

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Does my shoe struggles sound familiar with some relationship problems?

She’s beautiful, hot and quite presentable. She’s like a trophy wife. People keep gushing about her looks and poise but inside no one knows what you are enduring. She’s difficult to handle. She’s disrespectful. She’s lazy. She’s contentious.
He’s handsome, hardworking and funny with a very healthy bank account. He’s every girl’s dream. Girls are envious of you both and guys are jealous but inside no one knows what you are enduring. He speaks to you in a condescending manner, shouts at will and strikes you when he can’t stand your complaints.

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Let’s look at this “smile for the camera” type of relationships we keep having from another angle.

You are to travel from Abuja to Lagos by road with your family and given two options;
First is an unpainted Sienna bus with a regularly serviced engine, tires and a well-trained driver.
Second is a 2017 Range Rover Sports Utility Vehicle with a faulty engine, tired looking tires and an aggressive Fast and Furious driver.
Which of the automobiles would you choose to travel in?

Easy choice right?

So why do we stay in abusive relationships because of what people will say?
Why do we stay in stale relationships that look good on the outside but toxic on the inside?
Why do we keep managing relationships that are leading to nowhere?
Why do we keep praying for the wrong man to change instead of praying for the right man to find you?
Why do we keep entertaining a promiscuous partner with the excuse that “the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t”?
Why do we keep forgiving a partner that slaps and beats you at will because he loves you and maybe “it’s my fault he slapped me”?
Why do we smile for the camera (family, friends, colleagues, social media contacts) like we have a perfect relationship when we are dying on the inside?

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It’s time you drop what people might think and stand by what you think because at the end of the day, “no one knows where the shoe pinches, but he who wears it.”
Don’t be the sad and bruised girl in a Range Rover Sport looking out of the window and admiring the happy and joyous girl in a taxi.
Life is too short to be unhappy.
A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.
Stop sitting on the fence and take that leap of faith.
Who cares what the camera sees when you are hurting in camera (pun intended).
Get out now while you still can.

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