Flesh and The Female Dresscode To Church


It was a beautiful Sunday morning and I woke up with this feeling of joy and expectation  and couldn’t wait to get to church to feel God’s presence first hand.

Got into church just in time as ushers were busy ushering ‘late comers’ to their seats and two girlfriends were ushered to two vacant seats directly in front of me.

I didn’t think much of them because they sat down like the big sisters of Jesus and didn’t act like they understood that praise involved standing up and dancing.

During the course of the service, we were all asked to stand up and that’s when all hell broke loose.

You remember the story of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife in the Bible? How the devil knowing that Joseph was destined for greatness pushed Potiphar’s wife into a sinful desire to sleep with Joseph? (Read full story in Genesis 39).

That’s how I felt when one of the girls stood up and her see through gown clearly showed the lines of her rope underwear aka g-string.



WHAT IS ALL THIS!!???????!!!!!

I looked to the ground and said within my breathe “Satan, nice try!!!”

Suffice to say that service was amazing but not without those uncomfortable and unholy quick stares I took at this ‘evil’ girl’s big g-string wearing buttocks. Sorry to add, I wasn’t the only one making quick glances at madam.


But why?

Why would a lady wear such to the house of God? Why would some girls wear overly cleavage showing tops to church? Why would a girl wear a dress worthy of going to the club with into church? Why would a lady with a killer figure wear a gown so tight that every bump on her body is outlined through the dress? Why would a lady encourage sexual attraction from the opposite sex with her dressing?

1 a girl begging for it online1a

In another school of thought, is it okay for churches to disallow worshipers inappropriately dressed from entering the church?

But Jesus says in Matthew 11:28 “Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”. So what if these scantily dressed girls are showing their body because there is something lacking inside? What if they are burdened and in need of rest by coming to church? Do we turn them back just because they are not well dressed? What if the person decides not to accept Christ again over the fact that she was embarrassed because of her dressing?


What do we have to say about the churches themselves? Most don’t​ even agree on a unified dress code. In some churches, women compulsorily cover their hair while in others, they don’t. In other churches, women are banned from wearing trousers while in others, they are not. In some other churches, jeans aren’t allowed while in others jeans are. In some denominations, tight body hugging pencil skirts are allowed while in others, it’s a taboo.


The issue of dressing to church has been a century long debate in the body of Christ and the end is no where in sight.

In as much as the Bible says In John 7:24 “People judge the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart”. That doesn’t give ladies the audacity to dress shabbily into the house of God because God looks at the heart. What sort of heart do you have in dressing so temptingly to church?


In everything we do, we need to give ourselves brain. Eccesiastes 10:10b says “….but wisdom is profitable to direct”.

The same wisdom that directs one to dress appropriately for an interview with a prospective employer. The same wisdom that directs one to take a swimsuit/bikini to the swimming pool. That same wisdom should direct you to dress appropriately to the house of God because the Bible said vividly in 1 Timothy 2:9 “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in decent apparel, with modesty”.


This applies to both men and women alike, you should bring glory to God in the manner of your dressing. In church and outside church.

God might look at heart but if your dressing had eyes, would it confidently look at God?

Think about it.


When Men Allow Their Women Dress Naked


Do I consider myself a jealous lover?

Partially, I must admit. Hold my girl’s hand for too long and you are not her father or brother, then you are inviting trouble upon yourself.

I am not that paranoid and definitely not the “monitoring spirit” type of guy.
I don’t go through my girl’s phone (never have, never will) because as the saying goes “what you don’t know will not kill you”.
I don’t pick her calls and ask the guy at the other end of the call “who is this and why are you calling my girlfriend”. I find that habit quite immature.
I don’t ask my girl who the guy she’s on the line with for 15 minutes is. What’s my business?
I don’t monitor my girl’s movement, I don’t have that time.

So would you consider me a jealous lover? No, right? Okay. This is why you might in one word “Dating me equals dressing modestly”

Let me expanciate…..


Yesterday, at the BET Awards, Remy Ma (female rapper) caused quite a stir by wearing a raveciously revealing dress. It was as if her God-given assets were begging to jump out of her dress. To make matters worst, her husband (Papoose) was all smiles on the red carpet with her. It was as if her husband woke up, saw his wife’s scandalous dressing and said “yeah, baby. You look so hot. I can’t wait for the whole World to see what belongs to my eyes only”. Outrageous.


Remy Ma’s husband is not alone in this very strange habit of allowing their women dress half naked to shows or events. The most popular culprits range from Kanye West to John Legend. Below are a few pictures of married men and their seductively dressed wives.






So back to the issue at hand. The truth is that you can call me old fashioned but when I am with a woman, her body belongs to me. Not the paparazzi, not the public, not gossip columns and definitely not  Linda Ikeji’s blog.  I find it strange and bewildering that a man would allow his woman show off her body to the World. That’s just my believe.


Meagan Good and her Pastor husband

Wait a minute. I know some feminists would come up with that “gender equality” line to prove why my position is wrong. They would likely say “a woman owns her body and should flaunt it the way she likes. It’s not a man’s business”.

Well, it’s kinda my business. She’s my woman. If she were to be single, she can walk around naked for all I care.

There are certain pictures my girlfriend knows she can post on social media. Pictures that show excess cleavage are forbidden. Pictures that flaunt her fresh laps are taboo. Pictures that advertize her “God-given” assets are not allowed.

Am I an African man with a archaic mentality? Well, maybe.

Am I simply old fashioned? I guess.

Am I a jealous lover because I don’t want people to view my woman’s body? Your guess is as good as mine.