Drive Through With Your DRIVE

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I was minding my business when this beautiful and presentable lady approached my office table and asked if I was interested in buying body sprays and perfumes.

Before I could say Jack Robinson, she had occupied my table with different assorted body sprays and perfumes.

“This body spray is very good, lasts long and most of my customers love it”, she continued pointing to a body spray I was admiring.

Her use of English, presentation and interpersonal skills were top notch and I ended buying a body spray and a perfume from her.

She left her detials and asked me to call her when I exhausted the lot.

Curiosity they say killed the cat but I’m sure my next point of action won’t kill me. I used her number to search for her Facebook account (I’m sure some people didn’t know you could do that…lol. YES YOU CAN!!!)

What I discovered ‘wowed’ me.

This young and vibrant looking perfume seller recently passed out from Youth service.

Instead of sitting at home, lazying about and applying for jobs, she took the initiative and started something with what she had with the believe that one day she will have a story to tell.

What’s going to be your story?

The Bible said in Ecclesiastes 9: 10 “Whatever thy hand findeth to do, do it well…..”

Stop looking down on yourself. If you don’t like your situation, keep yourself busy till the situation changes. Don’t be lazy about it. Life is happening, ‘happen along’.

This young lady wouldn’t have been let into the office if she came with the sole aim of dropping​ her CV but was allowed in because she had something to sell.

See how her small mobile business opened the door for her into the office complex?

Let’s now imagine she had the resourcefulness and foresight as to go about her little business with her CV. As she sells a perfume to a client, she drops her CV with him/her with a smile saying “if you hear of any vacancy in your company or anywhere else, please give me a call”.

INITIATIVE!!!!!!!

Google defines the word initiative as “the power or opportunity to act or take charge before others do”. Oxford dictionary defines it as simply “a fresh approach to something”.

You have been applying for jobs and believing. That’s good. But in Eistein’s words ‘stupidity is doing the same thing and expecting different results’.

Do something different dammit.

Proverbs 22:29 says “Do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve kings rather than working for ordinary people”.

Emphasis on ‘Skilled in their work’. Even if you can’t go out and sell stuff. Learn a skill. Learn a trade. Improve yourself. Serve more passionately in church. Teach kids in the neighborhood a subject you are good at. Study a course online.

Sharpen your knife (mind) so when the wood (job) is available, you can cut it swiftly (successfully).

Humorously, the perfume and body spray I got from her are named “DRIVE”.

What’s your DRIVE? (pun intended)

Get up. Get out. Get working.

Date Your Wife and Marry Your Girlfriend

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“Date your wife and marry your girlfriend” – Kurtis Smith, 2015

I can’t stress the above quote enough. Let me break it down.

Date your wife: Most people enter into relationships for various reasons. For companionship, to be taken care of (women are mostly guilty of this), for the sex (men raise your hands), for social acceptance, to blend in or even because of boredom. Only a fraction of relationships that start on such shaky grounds ever reach the altar and even so only a small percentage of them last 10 years happily.

But imagine, a man sees a woman in her flaws and envisions “forever after” with her. He looks out for her best interest at heart. Builds her. Supports her. Forgives her. Loves and cherishes her. He is dating his wife.

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Marry your girlfriend: Then they get married. From that wedding day, the title changes from wife to girlfriend. We have made the title “wife” heavy with too much responsibility. A wife should be this. A wife should be that. Too much pressure. Instead he treats her like his girlfriend. He doesn’t make her to wash/clean/cook and all those wifely mumbo jumbo. He takes her on dates, makes love to her anywhere and everywhere, spoils her, cocoons her in unbinding love. He is married to his girlfriend.

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So remember, when next you envision marriage. Try it the other way around. Date your husband and marry your boyfriend. YOLO should actually be YOMO. You Only Marry Once.  Don’t make divorce an option. Marry your boyfriend/girlfriend today.

#CoupleGoals: IG—>>>> @timi_dorgu and @ife_x.

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Why A Man Should Not Help His Woman

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Schooling abroad taught me one major lesson about life. That “if you don’t take care of yourself, no one else would”. I wasn’t satisfied with depending on my parents for my daily upkeep so had to get a factory job in the UK and that meant cutting expenses which resulted in learning how to take proper care of myself from scratch.

I learnt how to cook and prepare my meals and take proper care of my house.

This lesson transcended into my love life. I preferred cooking my meals, wash my clothes myself, clean my house and take care of myself. Some lazy girls didn’t bother, less work for them but others found it odd.

“A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked, talking about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”

He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad U help your wife, I do not help because when I do my wife does not praise. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”

I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” as household chores.

I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.

I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.

I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.

I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.

I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.

I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing in her children, cooking, organizing, etc. U said thank you
But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!

Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?

Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.

Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.

The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship!”

 

Note: First three paragraphs are mine. The rest was lifted from Tee Edwards’ post titled “I do not help my wife” on Facebook.

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Guys,
Let us give her a hand. Let us behave like true companions. Let us not behave like guests who only come to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs other needs. Let us start feeling at home in our own house.

Don’t Let Your Clinton Trump Your Future.

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The race to become the 45th President of the United States has entered its final stages with business mogul and Republican Party candidate Donald Trump in a bitter winner takes all battle for supremacy with Democratic Party’s Hillary Clinton.

Both candidates are neck and neck in most polls and the election could become the most tightly contested election in the country since the Bush v Gore spectacle of year 2000.

As close as these elections are, it’s surprising to note that the major talking points in the race aren’t the candidate’s policies on health care or foreign policy or even the economy.

The hair raising, mouth wagging, opinion dividing and even votes shifting points of these elections aren’t what the candidates have pledged to do for their country if elected but what they did in their pasts.

For Hillary Clinton, the use of her family’s private email server for official communications, rather than official State Department email accounts maintained on federal servers during her tenure as the Secrtary of State have marred her campaign

And as for the enigmatic Donald Trump, accusations of sexual harassment by about a dozen women which came to a threshold after a tape leaked of him admitting to sexually harassing women because “when you’re a star, they let you do it, you can do anything…grab them by the pussy.” (His own words).

Both very unlikable candidates have been dodged not by their future plans but by their pasts. Pasts that could and would cost either of them their place in history.

As both Clinton and Trump have learnt the hard way, pasts stay in the past until your future comes knocking.

Instead of making the wrong choice now out of desperation or as we all like to say “to make ends meet”.
Instead of making decisions based on fleshly desires.
Instead of taking the wrong path because you thought you have no one to report to.
Think of the future.
Try envisioning the repercussions of the decision you are just about making to your future.

So many political ambitions have been derailed by lucid sexual revelations.
So many careers and lives have been derailed by the release of sex tapes.
So many marriages have crashed as a result of past undisclosed sexual juggernauts.

Before you post that selfie of you smoking or taking drugs/weed, think about the future.
Before you allow yourself to be videod or snapped during sex, think about the future.
Before you get enticed to sleep with men your father’s age for money, think about the future.
Before you engage in criminal activities to make fast money, think about the future.

In Donald Trump’s own words “if I had known that I would one day run for President, I might have behaved differently in the past”.

You might not see yourself in the political sphere or one day running for a big office but no one knows what the future holds.
Don’t spoil your records just because of impatience.
Don’t tarnish the image your future self would need to build a legacy.

Take life easy. Why the hurry?

When Your Enemies Are Just Bloody Tomatoes

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A teacher asked her students to bring some tomatoes in a plastic bag to school. Each tomato was to be given the name of a person whom that child hates. So, the number of tomatoes would be equal to the number of persons they hate.

On a pre-determined day, the children brought their tomatoes well addressed. Some had two, some had three and some had five, some even had 20 tomatoes in accordance with the number of people they hated.

The teacher then told them they had to carry the tomatoes with them everywhere they go for two weeks. As the days passed the children started to complain about the decay and smell of the tomatoes. The students who had many tomatoes complained it was very heavy to carry and the smell was too much.

After a week, the teacher asked the students “How did you feel this week?”

The children complained of the awful smell and heavy weight of the tomatoes, especially those who carried several tomatoes.

The teacher said, “This is very similar to what you carry in your heart when you don’t like some people. Hatred makes the heart unhealthy and you carry that hatred everywhere. If you can’t bear the smell of spoilt tomatoes for a week, imagine the impact of bitterness on your heart as you carry it daily.”

The heart is a beautiful garden that needs regular cleaning of unwanted weeds. Forgive those who have angered you. This makes room for storing good things.

As this year ends, do a self check-up and see if there is bitterness, envy, unforgiveness in your fragile heart. Unforgivingness is like choosing to stay trapped in a cell for the crime committed by someone else.

As Lewis Smedes once said “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

Forgiveness doesn’t change the past but it brightenes your future. If you are bitter against anybody it means the person has gotten the best of you and that means he/she has won. Don’t let them win. Let it go.

Remember, one of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody everything everynight before you go to bed – Bernard Baruch.

Forgive others as quickly as you want God to forgive you.

Forgiveness is not a feeling – it’s a decision we make because we want to do what’s right before God – Joyce Meyer.

Remember to let go and let God.

7 Things Death Teaches Us

 

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When someone dies relatively young, we have questions at the back of our minds as to why death is so cruel, why the good die young and the evil ones stay alive and healthy. Yesterday another popular figure in Nigeria died and I was inspired by the Holy Spirit to put up this article to address some of our deep concerns about death. Read and be blessed.

1. Death is not from God: There is this popular notion that “God gives, God takes”. That’s a notion implanted in the minds of people by the devil through the mouth of Job in Job 1:21. That passage is often misunderstood as meaning God gives children and takes them prematurely when He wants them in Heaven. God is light and death is darkness. Can light and darkness mingle? NO! The same God that said “The thief (devil) cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I (God) am come that they might have life, and that they might have it in abundance” (John 10:10). The same God that said “The fear of the Lord is a fountain of life, that one may turn away from the snares of death.” (Proverbs 14:27). The very same God that also said “Even though you walk through the valley of the shadow of death, you will fear no evil, for I am with me; My rod and My staff will comfort you.” (Psalm 23:4). This is the same God that will take (terminate our lives on earth) His children. The same Children that He sent His only son to die for? God does not take people, the devil kills people.

2. Sickness is from the devil: Sickness is highly spiritual. Sickness is devil’s way of afflicting us. In the Old Testament, Satan afflicted Job with sickness in Job 2:7 “Satan went out from the presence of the LORD and afflicted Job with painful sores from the soles of his feet to the top of his head”. In the New Testament, Jesus went about healing people that were sick and casting out the devil causing those sicknesses. For example, in Matt 12:22-28 “Then they brought him a demon-possessed man who was blind and mute, and Jesus healed him”. In Luke 8:2 “And also some women who had been cured of evil spirits and diseases.”
The same God that said in Exodus 23:25 “Serve the Lord and He will take away sickness from thee”. The same God that said “I wish above all things that thou mayest proper and be in health” (3 John 1:2). The same God that said in Proverbs 53:5 “By His stripes we are healed”. The same God that said “Himself bore our infirmities and took our sickness” (Matthew 8:17). The same God that said in Psalms 103:3 “Bless the Lord who heals all your diseases”. The same God that made all those statements would now give you and I sickness? If sickness is from God then why would Jesus be healing the sick? Doesn’t make sense, does it? The devil is the cause of sickness. When next you have malaria, typhoid, cancer etc, pray against the spirit of sickness not against the sickness itself and with faith you will be healed.

3. God doesn’t punish you for sinning: This is the most ludicrous accusation ever made of God. God gave His only son to die for your sin and thats the same God that will punish you for the same sin He gave up His only son to die for? The devil and his tricks. Let me explain this to you the best way I can (I hope the Holy Spirit explains it to you better). Jesus came to die for the sins you committed in the past, the present sins you are committing and future sins that you are yet to commit. That means even the sins you are yet to commit, He died for them all. Why then will He punish you for the sin He already died for. When you sin, ask for forgiveness and His Grace will cover you but when you sin and don’t come back to Him, you leave your self open to the attacks of the devil.

4. We are here for a purpose: We are all on earth for a reason. God put in us a special gift but the problem is most people never unwrap that gift. We are not on earth just to make money, feed our children, enjoy life and die. NO WAY. Life is about impactful living. Jeremiah 1:5 says “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew you; Before you were born I set you apart.” God knew you before you were born and He set you apart for something. What are you set apart for?
Prof Dora Akunyili and Kefee were set apart for different missions on earth, while one was set apart for National development and public service, the other was set apart to use worship as a medium of soul winning for God’s kingdom. I am set apart to use motivational and inspirational writeups like this to win souls to God’s kingdom. What are you set apart for? Find your calling and pursue it.

5. Be thankful: I wrote a very short article titled Attitude of Gratitude where I explained the importance of gratitude in our everyday life. Many people have gone to the great beyond, some more influential than us, some richer than us, some stronger than us and you are here complaining to God because you are not in school, or don’t have a job, or don’t have a car. Appreciate what you have before its taken away from you and given to someone else that would be more grateful.

6. We are not worthy: Do you think you are alive because you deserve it? Do you think you are alive because you are the most righteous person? Do you think you are alive because you are Holy enough? Do you think you are alive because you are the kindest, the most gentle, the most humble? Many people far better than you, far richer than you will ever be, far kinder than you have died. None of us is worthy of God’s goodness. Thank God for a brand new day everyday you live and don’t live life like its your right.

7. God wants us to live long: God wants us to live long and fulfill our days on earth. Psalms 91:16 says “with long life will I satisfy thee..” and Exodus 23:26b says “…I will give you a full life span” (NIV). Another version of the same scripture says “..I will give you long full lives” (NLT). Yet another version says “…I will let you live a normal life span” (GWT). Another version also says “…I will fulfill the number of your days” (KJV). God is telling us that we will live long. Take hold of that Word and when sickness comes remind it that God said you will live long. Long is definitely not 40+ or 50+ or 60+ or 70+ or even 80+. Long is loooooooooooooooooong.

 

REMEMBRANCE:
I’ll love to use this medium to pay my (our) last respects to Prof. Dora Nkem Akunyili and Kefee Obareki of Nigeria.
The amazingly inspirational Prof Dora passed on the 7th of June while Grace filled gospel artist Kefee died on the 13th June.
They left behind grieving husbands, families, friends, fans and admirers. May their souls rest in peace and may God’s warmth and peace engulf their families and friends granting them the fortitude to bear the irreplaceable loss.

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